Can you state right now, and without any conditions or uncertainty, you are worthy to receive whatever you may hope for or dream about? Do you believe you deserve to acquire everything you want, as to the goals and dreams you have established for your life and your career? If something good were to happen right now in your life, or in your career, could you really and truly be happy for yourself, and willingly accept it?
Most people would probably answer yes to those questions, as who would state no when asked if they are deserving of the best in life? But the reality is much different, when you consider the mindset, attitude, and disposition most people have about themselves, along with the natural reaction they experience when they set goals, dreams, or a plan for changes in their lives. This also occurs when good things begin to happen and there is a natural sense of self-sabotage or a negative reactive current which begins to set in.
I believe at some level we all struggle, or least have struggled at some point in our lives, with accepting our natural ability to receive the good in life. There is a mantra about having to work hard in order to get what you want, and anyone who just inherits well-being was born with a “silver spoon in their mouth”, which of course is a very negative connotation. This is just as negative as the belief that “money is the root of all evil”. So many people want to achieve more during their lifetime, yet there is so much negativity surrounding the issue of actually accomplishing greater things or acquiring more in life.
In contrast, another area of self-development is over-emphasizing abundance, to the point it has taken one Law of the Universe and turned it into a magical, get rich formula. I am referring to the Law of Attraction, which is but one of many Laws of the Universe, and never meant to be the sole guide for anyone’s life. It is a law about the state of a person’s mind, and is not the answer to every question someone may have about their life, relationship, career, or anything else for that matter. Yet there are countless books and teachers who have built entire teaching philosophies around it, and when it doesn’t work for many people, this only reinforces the idea of a lack of self-worth.
This is also what happens when many people finally achieve the outcomes they hoped for, such as a new job, new relationship, new career, promotion, improved health, or anything else which had seemed to be something that had only been a dream. The patterns of reactive dislike and disbelief may set in, along with questions related to worthiness. For example, a person may question whether or not they have worked hard enough to deserve a new job, or they may ask if they deserve a new relationship. This may be followed by a critical self-analysis, and list of all of the negative qualities which seem to prove this new outcome or result or change was not deserved.
I have also struggled with self-worth. My reactive pattern, which demonstrated my lack of feeling a sense of internal worthiness, occurred whenever I would dream of becoming or doing or achieving something else. I would all of a sudden get upset about something completely different or unrelated to whatever it was I was dreaming or thinking about. What I have learned is that the outward signs of being upset were an indicator of the internal turmoil within me. I could see the dream, yet I felt the reality and it was all too real for me, which created internal conflict. How could I dream when I had obligations and other responsibilities which might seem to hold me back?
What this means is that I was not able to accept I could have a dream and move past my current reality, which also was an indicator I did not believe in my own self-worth. Once again, these were reactive patterns born from a life of struggle, and always trying to do what was considered to be responsible, rather than live empowered to follow a dream. This doesn’t mean it was the wrong way to live, just one that was less fulfilled.
Perhaps this meant it took me longer in life to become a teacher as a result of it, yet I believe now all of these lessons were part of what I had to learn to now be a teacher. Now I can understand what it means to feel doubt and the reactive, engrained mental patterns. This is something I have learned and can help teach others now, about self-worth and self-love. This is also the subject I wanted to learn more about as I was connected to the Collective Consciousness of mankind and Universal Wisdom. I’ll share with you now what I learned about the energy of self-worth.
A universal truth is this: Every human being has a set of beliefs that are developed as a product of time and experience, yet the most influential formation time occurs early on in life. It is during the formative years when others are able to assert their influence on an impressionable mind, and this influence can last far into adulthood – even if the person creating or exerting the influence is no longer around or cared about.
Understanding the Nature of Beliefs
While beliefs can be changed, a person tends to form them early in life and then seek confirmation of those beliefs through life events. There are milestones in a person’s life which can create new beliefs, and are usually the result of the aging or life process, such as gaining experience and wisdom, and/or seeking out new knowledge and being intentional in a desire to learn and change.
The beliefs which are hardest to change are those which are personal in nature, those deeply connected to a person’s emotions and state of mind. In contrast, beliefs about the world, religion, politics, or other matters can eventually change through the acquisition of knowledge, wisdom, enlightenment, and through discourse.
But beliefs which are deeply personal and emotional are not so easily changed. Those beliefs typically involve how a person believes they look, how they believe they are fitting in with the world and their environment, how they are measuring up with others, how they feel about themselves, and how they view their overall worth.
These beliefs are deeply held and engrained at an emotional, vibrational, and energetic level, held in a chronic pattern and sustained. These are long-term energetic emotional reactions and responses which become so deeply held, a person soon forgets they exist as they simply react in the same manner time after time.
For example, if a person has grown up believing they do not fit into society, this becomes a permanent, negative energy cycle which is so practiced they soon forget it is a belief. This person simply operates in life knowing they do not fit in, and any time they are put into a situation which may require them to try and fit in, they automatically respond in fear or reject the very idea of trying.
If this mindset has been practiced long enough, it becomes a way of life until challenged. But to challenge a belief like this would require something to happen which would force a person to finally reflect and uncover why they respond to situations in the manner they do now.
Understanding a Lack of Self-Worth
One such negative belief, which practiced long enough becomes a negative sustained emotion, is that of a lack of self-worth. This is one of the most self-defeating, negative emotions and self-beliefs a person can hold, simply because it creates negative automatic responses.
There are many reasons why a lack of self-worth can begin at an early stage in a person’s life. The easiest answer is to blame one or both parents, and yet this overlooks the knowledge available about each person already having chosen their own life. The struggles which are part of life are similar to the steps necessary to create a diamond. The more abrasive the process, the better the outcome may be in the long-term. This does depend upon the purpose a person chooses for injecting challenges into their lives.
But problems and issues occurring early in life can weaken the natural built-in sense of worthiness available to each and every human being. This is further exacerbated by religious teachings and conditions established by society. Feeling naturally worthy does not come easy for many people, not until they begin a journey of personal and spiritual transformation.
Understanding the Emotion of Worthiness
The emotion of worthiness is really about love. To feel a lack of self-worth is to feel a lack of self-love.
There are clues about how a person feels right now, regarding their belief about being naturally worthy. For example, a compliment, gift, prize, new dream coming true, or anything similar coming to fruition. How does the person respond?
If there is true happiness felt or experienced, the person believes they are worthy and deserving of what they are about to receive. In contrast, if there are questions, hesitation, concern, or any type of resistance which manifests itself externally through frustration, anger, depression, or any negative feelings – this person may not believe in their natural worthiness and the signs point towards internal turmoil. This also means they have not fully learned the art of self-love.
To love yourself wholly is to know you are here right now because you planned it, and you worked out the details ahead of time. While you may have experienced challenges early on in life, and do so even now, it never diminishes your worthiness to receive the best or whatever you dream of or hope for or desire.
Understand How to Love Yourself
To love yourself means you change the practiced emotion of disbelief into one of belief, so you can experience a better life for yourself, one without self-doubt.
The self-worth you hold is a product of the self-love you cultivate, and it radiates from within. You never need worry about asking for too much from life, as you are always worthy to have dreams – and through those dreams you will discover your life’s plan and purpose.
To embrace self-love is to finally accept life as it occurs each day, good or otherwise, with a practiced positive emotion of self-love, not a negative emotion of self-doubt.
If you have struggled with questions of doubt, and you are not certain if you have ever truly loved yourself, now is the time to develop a new belief system, to create a new life.
You do not need a list of affirmations, or training for a new, positive mindset. Just a simple reminder to help you get started: “I planned my life.”
This knowledge will begin to open many emotional doors for you, including love for yourself.
The next reminder is this: “I have access to the Collective Consciousness of mankind at all times.”
Now you are affirming your belief of self-love and self-worth. It is not tied to anyone and requires no one else to be involved. You are also not asking anyone to gain access for you, and you are not asking approval from anyone. This is for you and you alone.
The last reminder is this: “The wisdom and insight I need for my life is available to me and it can be found through my own mind.”
With these reminders, you can now establish a practiced, positive emotion towards your life of self-worth and self-love. Now you are no longer needing to question whether or not you deserve something special in your life as you are living your life and connected to the source of life, the energy of life itself.
The more you nurture your self-love, the stronger your positive self-beliefs will grow. In time, you will learn to never doubt yourself or your worth again. Then you will be living your life to its fullest.
I hope you Read and Believe in the power of your ability to learn the Laws of the Universe,
Important Note: These are notes taken while I am involved in focused thinking and connected to Collective Consciousness and Higher-Order Universal Wisdom. I have recorded and transcribed my notes, making them available to anyone interested in learning about Laws of the Universe.
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